On the road to success you will encounter obstacles of your own making. Many of these will come in the form of false beliefs. You may not even know where these beliefs come from. We all have some form of one or more of these. Once you shed light on them, it is much easier to identify when you are being slowed down by one.
For some of us, the battle against false beliefs is a life-long struggle. Here are a few of the most common ones:
- I’m less than. You may think the reason you are stuck is because there is something inherently wrong with you. Well, there is something wrong with all of us. You aren’t missing the success gene. Showing vulnerability is frowned upon, so most people only show their wins. You don’t see that what they struggle with. And they are struggling with something…guaranteed.
- Money is evil. Many of us were brought up with a worldview that (it seems) condemns the rich. We have a built in sub-conscious wall that prevents us from seeking out success. We start to romanticize our poverty/struggle by adding meaning to it that really isn’t there. There is no meaning to unnecessary poverty, except those opportunities for personal growth escaping it presents.
- I should only do something if I can be good at it. This is a biggie. Many of us were taught that the only things worth doing were the things we could do well. A culture of perfectionism has blown away the benefits of failure. To do anything really great with our lives means failure…and lots of it. It takes courage to try something and be bad at it, especially, if anyone else will see it. You will need to get over this. If what you were trying to do was so easy that everyone who tried it succeeded the first time, everyone would do it. No. What you are going to do is hard. You will struggle. That’s ok.
- My past mistakes define me. While there are the good kind of failure that helps us, there are the bad kinds of failure that only hurt us and those around us. Moral failures. I have them in my past, and you probably do, too. No matter how bad you think you’ve been, it doesn’t mean that that is how you will always be. I’ve done some terrible things in my life. I am not proud of them. What I am proud of, though, is turning my life around and becoming some one I am happy to be. It is a long, hard road back, but there is a beautiful life waiting for you at the end.
- Hard is bad. Wrong! Hard is good. Your self worth grows exponentially when you overcome a really hard situation. This is extra true if you failed multiple times before you got it right. You don’t get bragging rights for doing something easy.
- I have to fix everything right now. It is likely that you have a lot you want to change in your life. I do, too. It can seem so overwhelming that giving up seems the reasonable choice. Don’t try to fix everything right now. Pick one or two things that will make the biggest impact on your life, and work on those. Making a small change that affects your entire life is way more effective than trying to change everything and failing.
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What are some false, limiting beliefs that you have? Also, what is a small change that you’ve made that had a big affect in your life?